Including Scottish Customs and
Traditions in Your Wedding
One of the distinguishing features of your modern
wedding in the Scottish tradition will be the particular
mix of customs you choose to incorporate.
Wearing of Tartan
The
iconic symbol of Scottish culture is wearing of tartan.
Piping in the Bride
In Scottish weddings bride and groom were always treated
equally, so the bride was not given away by her father
as was the custom in England. This allows for a number
of wonderful precursors to the wedding and a very
different form of processional, which fits all couples
perfectly, regardless of whether you are two brides, two
grooms, or a bride and a groom. Also great for
double weddings (a great idea for thrifty couples, twice
the fun and huge savings on the reception and other
costs).
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The Oathing Stone
Taken from the ancient custom of setting an oath in
stone, including an oathing stone in the vows
can be
deeply moving.
Handfasting Scottish Style
Contrary to popular belief, the term 'handfasting'
signifies a handshake,
and the use of the cord is a modern re-interpretion.
Centuries ago it was sufficient for a couple
to join
hands in the presence of witnesses and declare their
commitment to one another, for their marriage to be
recognised. The church didn't like it, but had to
recognise it. Nonetheless incorporating this feature
into the ritual is visually moving, particularly when
the hands are bound by The Ban' (generally tartan ribbon
or a length of woollen tartan fabric).
Sharing the Quaich
A
loving cup ceremony using the quaich, the traditional
Scottish two handled shallow communal drinking vessel,
adds a special touch to the ceremony. I have a beautiful
quaich that is available for use in your ceremony. What
you choose to fill it with is up to you. Traditionally,
it would be whisky. And for my money you can't beat a
good single malt. But Scotland is also producing the
most wonderful botanical gins. And, if you choose to go
non-alcoholic, there really is only one choice!
Sashing of the Bride and
Presentation to the Groom
The sashing of the bride is
the moment when the bride is welcomed into the groom’s
family and clan. The presentation of the bride's
family sword to the groom is likewise is a very special
moment. This is when the groom is welcomed into his
wife's family and charged with the responsibility of
defending her and her honour. These customs can be
adapted for same sex couples.
The Bride photgraphed with all the
kilted men
Don't forget the Thistle
There are many ways to
incorporate the floral symbol of Scotland into your
wedding. You can add a Scottish touch to common wedding
rituals that are not necessarily Scottish, such as the
Warming of the Rings, by incorporating the thistle. You
can also incorporate the thistle in bouquets,
boutonnieres, and on the linen on the signing table. I
have several vintage/antique hand-embroidered cloths
which I'm happy to lend you for the ceremony.
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in the Scottish Tradition